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Okay:
 I have a problem with people talking themselves down.
I have a problem with beautiful girls being insecure

Be yourself.  Social norms are overrated.
Quit worrying about how your "supposed to act"
Be kind is the only rule to really follow yes?
If your nice, and genuine about it-and your honest
Its the others peoples fault if they have a problem with you.

In the which case, get over it.
You can't please everyone.

You don't have to get your hair done and your nails done and feel a certain way in order to win that boy
(though, feel free to get your hair done and your nails done if it so delights you-just make sure your doing it for you, not for him)

You don't have to classify yourself as emotionally high maintenance.
You have needs-so what?  Have your needs met!  You deserve to have needs and to have them met!  Just  don't degrade your self to any sort of maintenance status.
Uhhhh-I HATE status-es (spelling help?)
Truth is, we're all high maintenance.  And things break down if they're not maintained.

Also, you are not going to have successful relationships if you can't like yourself.
My advice, Listen to the Whitney Huston song "The Greatest love of all" every morning, every night, every
time your in the car.  That's what I had to do for two years of my life.  Eventually, with the help of that song,  and an amazing choreographers chastising after I made a self degrading comment, and some honest self evaluation, I made the changes I needed to make to be a person I could love.  If you can't love yourself, you really can't love someone else.

I heard this really good comment the other day on a tape I was listening to-it said that regret is only supposed to be a messenger.  The problem is when we hold that messenger hostage so we get the message over and over again.  The purpose of regret is to get the message and move on.

You've been through some hard things ladies, I've been there to.  Holding open the wounds doesn't let them heal.  Looking at the wounds and the imperfections, its like that needle I took in the leg a few months ago-it really wouldn't have hurt if I had just looked away.  I'm not saying, ignore your problems, I'm not saying forget what you went through or try to make seem any less than it is-what I'm saying stop thinking about it so much!  Stop watching the wounds heal, and just put the band aides on the best you can, apply some antibacterial ointment, and move forward.  Its okay if it leaves a scar cuz that scar will have a story-that hopefully has taught you something.

On another note, Your only as happy as you are grateful.  Look at the beautiful things in your life, look for more ways to fill your life with good.  Refocus outside of yourself.  Find a purpose, a cause, make a goal with measurable steps that will improve your life.  Enough with concepts and emotions, process them, and then get grounded in something concrete.


I apologize if this hits so close to home for some of you, but enough is enough-I want you to be happy.  So it may be a funny way of showing it, but I gotta lay down some tough love on occasion.

Things can be better if you really want them to be.  And in person, I'm much more empathetic.  We need a juice date.

Quotes to uplift:

(Because they're so much more eloquent than me)

"Life can only be understood by looking backward, but it must be lived looking forward."

"I will Grow.  I will become something new and Grand,
But no grander than I now am.  Just as the sky will be different in a few hours,
Its Present perfection and completeness is not deficient.  So am I presently perfect and not deficient
because I will be different tomorrow."  -Wayne Dryer

Every Flower has to go through alot of dirt." -Lauren Bond.

Long Story Short:

I'm an optimist, a Ballroom Dancer, Big sister, a friend, a goofball, a student, a dreamer, and I'm a mormon.




Friend was talking to me, suggested I make one of those profiles on mormon.org. This is as far as I've gotten so far. I'll let you know when I have the rest of it together.

Strength

I am strong.  I am beautiful.  I am smart.  I am unique.  I dance, I sing.  I am curious, I am my own sort of creative and I can make people laugh and feel good about themselves.  These are the good things about me.  I know theres some not good things about me to.  But to give myself the break that I deserve I don't focus on those.  I try consitently to do better, to be better-not because thats what the world wants me to do but because thats what I want to do.  I want to learn to play the piano, I want to finnish college, I want to be more compassionate, I want to be healthier, more independant, more pulled together and better at managing my time.  I believe that life is about improving and progressing.  I am not perfect, and I will not be perfect try as hard as I might-and I'm okay with that.  While I'm not perfect-I still try to be, because striving for perfection is how I attain the best I can be.   But if I fail, its not the end the world as I know it because I know its a goal I'm not capable of acheiving.  I don't use that as an excuse to mediocrity though, or as a reason to throw a pity party (you know the people who say "I'm not all that I wanted or thought I would be so wo is me, pity party!").  I accept the reality in the truth of who I am,  what I'm doing, and whats at the top of my ladder.  That allows me to focus on what I need to do, what I need to change, and as I commit my efforts to that change I find my own peace of mind knowing I'm doing what I can, and that I'm trying.  Thats my best and thats what matters.

I'm persoanlly tired of seeing women I know saddened because you don't feel beautiful, you don't feel like you measure up, or you don't feel like you fit in.  What you need is to stand up for yourself to yourself.  Then you can worry about confronting the people who belittle you and complicate your efforts to happiness.  Be honest with yourselves about all that you are-beautiful, strong, enduring, hardworking-and just keep chugging along through your tough circumstances.  Noone has been through what you've been through except our saviour.  If you could honestly see yourself and everything you do and have done, you would know that you are so much more than you think.  You are fabulous and beautiful, you do fit in, and you do measure up.

This I know (a special list of Loves, Loves #7)

Fall is my favorite time of year!

Christ is my Saviour, my redeemer, and my bestest best friend

When we do hard things-we get blessings we don't expect.

Tender mercies are all around us.

Families are forever.

People are beautiful.

I'm gonna be an aunt real soon!

To be anxiously engaged in a good cause is good for the soul-yeah Heavenly Father said to do it, but if you do it, you will be happier.  The more you give of yourself for this good cause, the more you lose yourself in it, the happier you will be.

Gods plan is perfect, God plan is complete, God plan is THE plan of happiness.

Busy Busy Busy

My weekend, was busy-but Oh SO Wonderful with my Wonderful home!  It stinks having to say goodbye everynight-but I like having him around. And we've entered this phase in our relationship where though I still feel pretty clingy-I think I can handle going about and doing my agenda while he tends to his.  We love eachother-but we don't have to be connected at the hip to survive the day. I only got to see him for a quck lunch at my house this morning-but still had a very good and productive day!  I got all the chores my mom requested done, made a dentist appointment, relaxed, ate good food, and Helped maggie pack up and ship out!  She's off to Denver right now for a quick layover before headed on to Salt Lake City-I'm gonna miss her!  She was an awesome VT companion and Sunday School teacher and just all around lovely person.  I wish her the best on her next adventure-and kinda wish I could drive across country....but ah well.  I have my own adventures here.

:)  With that, I plan on tomorrow being productive as well-Gonna wake up early even though I don't have to and go to the dentist, then read my Medical Terminology book-and if Travis has his agenda taken care of, spend the evening with him.  Life is grand!